As life inevitably shifts, sometimes it becomes clear that your elderly parents need more help than they have at home. Living in an assisted living facility is one of the choices on the horizon in these cases. At this time, grown children find themselves helping their parents downsize and allocate family treasures.
Some use this time to divide possessions among children. There are a growing number of families who have found that creating a staging area of sorts can be helpful in the process. Oregonians have a reputation for being forward thinking, and as part of that, a growing trend reported by owners of self storage units in the Tigard, Oregon area is that when this time comes for a family, they rent a storage unit so that they can divide furniture and other keepsakes while the family transitions to this new stage of life.
With all of the options of storage facilities in the Portland metropolitan area, you will need to decide if you will be using one of the many storage units in Beaverton, Oregon or those in another nearby suburb.
Some families select a few smaller units, one for each grown child, and move items into these as they are packed up. This is particularly helpful when siblings do not live nearby, allowing those who are out of state to retrieve items when it is convenient for them. Others select a larger unit and divide items into area inside the unit. It really just depends on their needs and preferences.
In addition to the physical demands of moving a lifetime’s worth of belongings, there can be strong feelings that come up as you move your parents into a retirement home. It’s important to allow family members to express their feelings of sadness as they see items from their childhood being packed away and their aging parents unable to care for themselves.
Sometimes, this process can get wildly out of hand as more than one person wants Aunt Madge’s china. The last thing that anyone wants is a turf war over family heirlooms. This doesn’t help families in transition and is quite stressful for all. Should there be a conflict on an item’s destination, making the decision can be as arbitrary as a coin flip or as complex as an elaborate negotiation or trade.
It’s important to remember that conflicts at this time make a difficult situation worse for all – especially on your parents. They are facing a difficult transition as well as they lose the ability to care for themselves and, ultimately, face their mortality.
The possessions are not what’s important; it’s the memories that are attached to these items that is most important.